There comes a time in every child’s life when the world around them is rapidly changing. The self opens up amazing new horizons. This period, known as the crisis of three years, becomes an important milestone on the child’s path to independence and understanding of the world around him, and for parents – a serious challenge. In this article, we look at what a three-year crisis is, what symptoms are associated with it, and how parents can help their child successfully navigate through an important stage.
What is a three-year crisis?
It’s also known as the Terrible Two Years or the Scary Two Years. Most often occurs in the second and third years of a child's life, but may begin earlier or last longer. At this time, the child shows unexpected stubbornness, tries to do everything on his own, denies the things he loves and builds personal boundaries.
Signs and symptoms
"I'm on my own."
During the crisis of three years, children begin to want to do everything on their own - they refuse the help of adults and show their stubbornness. Your child may surprise you with the phrase, “I won’t eat this.” I'm not sleepy. I'll cross the road myself.
Inconsistency
Three-year-olds can begin to deny almost everything, even what they liked before. Did a child watch a blue tractor cartoon every morning? Now, at the sight of his beloved character, he can frown and angrily turn off the TV. So children want to emphasize their independence and check the boundaries.
Low concentration of attention
The subject of interest changes quickly. The child played with cubes for 5 minutes and now reaches for the coloring - without finishing the drawing, he turns on the tablet.
Curiosity
Be prepared for a thousand “why” questions. During this period, children are actively immersed in the study of the world, interested in the meaning of objects and new words.
Imitation
The child begins to imitate you, other children, animals and even objects. He may play doctor or salesman, repeat the sounds of a moving car, or use a parent’s trademark words.
Mood swings
A minute ago, there was an unrestrained laughter, but now there is a cry for no reason. Emotional swings are a common symptom of the crisis of three years.
Difficulty switching attention
Children need more time to switch from one activity to another. For example, on the playground, you might hear, "I don't want to go home, let's stay."
Selectivity in food
A three-year-old can become more strict in the choice of food, refuse already familiar dishes. Traditional oatmeal for breakfast, he may require replacing with yogurt and cereal with milk.
Bright imagination
A rich imagination is a characteristic symptom of the crisis of three years. But it is important to remember that almost all children have it during development.
Causes of the three-year crisis
During this period, cognitive, emotional and physical aspects develop rapidly. There is more complex thinking and logic. Children begin to understand their emotions and those of others. The child is aware of his own “I” and strives for independence.
The environment, learning, and socializing with other children also have a major impact on the manifestation and intensity of the crisis.
How to Help Your Child and Yourself During a Crisis
Patience and understanding
You will be filled with strong emotions throughout. Accept them as part of normal development and allow your child to express their feelings.
Right to choose
Try to make choices. This will help a three-year-old to feel more independent and in control. For example, you might say, “You can decide which room we’re going to play in today.”
Safe environment
Aim to create a stable schedule and rituals, such as reading books before bed. Predictability makes you feel more confident and know what to expect. Create a “shelter” where the child can retire to “resent you.”
Encourage positive behavior
Warm words and recognition can be a powerful motivator. Notice even small successes and efforts. Is this the first time a child has dressed and made a bed? Wonderful! Praise me. Your attention will support your confidence.
Support yourself.
Don't forget about yourself. Discuss your feelings and experiences with close friends, family, or partner if you feel like you’re not coping. Remember that no one is perfect. Allow yourself to make mistakes and learn from them.
Play.
Games are extremely important during this period: they help to cope with stress and anxiety, strengthen the bond with parents. What to play with the baby? Let's go on.
Games
A surprise box.
Gather a small box with various items (toys, dolls, etc.). Describe each item before you take it out. Encourage your child to talk about each item in the box, make up stories or play with it.
Creating your book
Ask your child to create their own book. Help draw or cut pictures, and then together come up with a fascinating story. You can write a story and make a “real” book.
Shop
Place toys or items in the room and ask your child to play the seller. It can take orders from you or toys, put goods on shelves and serve "buyers." The game develops social skills and mathematical thinking.
Guess the emotion.
Prepare cards with images of different emotions (joy, sadness, anger, etc.). Ask your child to guess the emotion on the card and repeat the facial expression.
Treasure search
Hide small objects in the room. Leave little clues or draw a map. Ask your child to find hidden treasures.
Shadow theatre
Place the lamp or lamp so that it illuminates the wall. With your hands or objects, create different figures and silhouettes, tell stories and fascinating tales using shadows.
Play is the best way to educate and educate preschool children. Thanks to the playful approach, the child actively develops, learns the world around him and acquires communication skills.
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