A person who is naturally endowed with special qualities or one who has been properly educated? Both are true. Only a natural tendency to leadership can be ruined from childhood by improper upbringing.
Today we are talking about the encouragement of children, the influence of magical words and phrases on the development and formation of the child’s personality.
Why is it important to encourage a child?
We all have to face criticism in our lives. Do you remember how you felt at that moment? Do you want to prove that you are good or disappear and never do the things that led to criticism again? Everyone's different. Someone will want to prove the opposite, and someone will be very worried and fall into depression.
When we are praised, thanked or awarded a prize for good work, immediately lifts the mood, there is confidence and the desire to do more and better.
The baby reacts the same way. Only his psyche is much more vulnerable and weaker. Therefore, if he regularly receives criticism for misconduct, but is not rewarded for good deeds, his psyche breaks down. Over time, this affects the behavior – the child does not want to do anything, then at school – ceases to be interested in the world around him, and then becomes a loser in life.
Here are 3 main reasons:
1. The child receives a reference
When a little man is praised for his actions, he realizes that he is on the right path. Therefore, in the future, she will take the initiative and try to please her parents again.
2. The child is always motivated.
Approval, praise and encouragement are magical tools that lift a child’s mood and give confidence in their abilities. A child whose parents are generous with praise grows persistent, purposeful, and successful.
3. The child feels protected.
If the child receives enough praise and encouragement, his self-esteem in the future will be fine. And he is unlikely to fall under someone’s negative influence and will do what he does not want.
No, you should not always praise and offer rewards for everything. Measure matters. Any encouragement must be adequate and appropriate to the occasion. For example: received high marks in school – praise, support or enjoy a surprise.
But if every time a child ate, washed himself, went to the toilet, enthusiastically exclaimed: “What a great job you are!”, you risk harm. Psychologists believe that such a reaction to basic social actions subconsciously reduces the child’s self-confidence.
For effort, for action, for result. Magic begins with words. Making a figurine made of plasticine, tell him: "You're very good, you picked the right colors and shapes," or that the figure is very similar to what he sculpted. But don't embellish or tell him he created a masterpiece. Such exaggerations lead to the fact that in adulthood a person will be very painful to perceive criticism.
Say thank you words.
Thank your child for helping, sharing, and telling the truth. Say “thank you” or “thank you.” In this way, you teach your child to be polite, grateful, and make him feel valued and valued. Words of gratitude help to form an emotionally prosperous and confident person.
Smile.
Always accompany praise and gratitude with a smile. Your child will always feel your sincerity. After all, sincere relationships in the family are the basis on which the ability to trust yourself and the world around you is formed.
Kiss and hug
Praise, thank, smile, and now come, hug and kiss your child. Tactile contact promotes the release of endorphins, improves physical and mental state, creates a sense of security and forms a strong bond between you and the child. Psychologists recommend hugging children at least four times a day.
Spend time with the child
Does your child like to spend time with you? Great! Do with him what he wants. As an encouragement, play educational games with him, draw, sculpt, go to entertainment centers. Do together what your child wants. And believe me, this method of encouragement for children is more expensive than any gifts.
What words of gratitude and phrases can and should be said to a child every day to grow up as a leader?
Do you want to raise a happy, confident and purposeful child? Then let's get to practice. To help with magic words and phrases.
So, every day say these 7 phrases to your son or daughter:
"I love you."
This phrase should be said to children not only every day, but many times a day. Thus, a trusting relationship is built between you. Thanks to these three words, the child believes in his worth and values and boldly goes through life, not afraid to try new things and make discoveries.
“I am grateful to fate for having you.”
Hearing this phrase, your child will always feel that he is loved not for some actions, but against everything. Regardless of whether he did well or badly. Thanks to this phrase, the foundations of a stable psyche are laid.
“Thank you for your efforts. I see your success and am proud of you.
Such words help the child to navigate, to understand that he is moving in the right direction. More often notice the successes and efforts of your children, often approve of their actions, and they will always be motivated.
“Please forgive me. I'm sorry that happened.
We are also wrong and we are wrong. We can snap and shout or say hurtful words. The main thing is to learn to admit your wrongness and ask forgiveness from your children. Saying “Please, I’m sorry, I was wrong” makes your child feel respected. You also set an example of how to behave in such situations. It is at such moments that the value system of a small person is formed.
“Thank you for telling me. You can always count on my help.
By thanking your child once for telling you the truth, even if it is not very pleasant, you show that you can be trusted, that you can be approached with any problem. The child will not seek help on the side and is unlikely to fall into bad company.
“Listen to your heart. What do you want now? ?
Always give your child a choice. Ask him what he wants, what he thinks, what he would do, etc. Children who are given the right to choose grow up active and become successful.
“Fear nothing. Have the courage to do what you want.
This phrase can also be attributed to the right of choice. By saying, “Have the courage to do what you want,” we allow the child to choose who to be and how to live. It's such a thing for the future. When he is 20 years old, he will know exactly where to go. And by 30, he can rest on his laurels.
"You'll be fine. Don't be afraid to be wrong. Mistakes are normal.
"Mom, I can't do it! “I couldn’t!” we hear such statements from the moment the child learns to speak. Support, say that everyone is wrong, that progress is impossible without mistakes. A healthy response to one’s own mistakes contributes to the development of patience, perseverance, and other leadership qualities.
“Don’t believe anyone when they say you’re bad.”
Explain to the child that someone may not like him, that someone may consider him bad, but this assessment should not be taken personally. This will allow the child to be more confident, not to doubt himself and normally take criticism.
We have analyzed the basic phrases that should be said to a child every day so that he grows happy and acquires leadership qualities. And now we will understand how to behave and what to say if the child is capricious or beating in hysterics?
How to talk to a child when he is naughty?
The main thing is to calm down. Then come and ask, “Are you upset?” What happened? Tell me, I want to help. Let the baby talk. Even if you disagree with what he says, don’t interrupt or evaluate the situation.
After the child is done, ask them, “What can we do together right now?” Listen again. Then offer a choice of other solutions. Find a compromise and eliminate the cause that upset your child.
This approach teaches your child to always trust you, understand the problem and find ways to solve it.
Of course, the causes of childhood whims and our reactions to them can be different. But it is important to remember that we are adults and can cope with our emotions. Our main task is to teach this to our children.
Let's take stock!
How to raise a leader from a child? Simple. Very simple, dear parents. Just love your kids and talk to them the way you want them to talk to you. And let the magic words and phrases from our article help you.
How can you teach a child to be tidy? By setting a personal example. In a sports-oriented family, children grow up to be agile and resilient; parents who read books can spark a child’s interest in the mysteries of the literary world. Disciplined and tidy people live in clean and orderly environments. For younger children, cleaning in a playful way is a good option, while for older children, sharing household chores equally with parents is ideal.
Why is it important? Critical thinking in children works differently than in adults. Children are more curious, adaptable, and creative, and they make the right decisions faster than others. All of this helps them stand out among their peers and become more successful in life.
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